I was at a comedy club the other weekend where they adamantly discourage cell phone use.  And of course that doesn’t stop people.  So, while one woman checked her phone the comedian said something along the lines of, ‘What’s going on there?  Are you checking for your whore update?  Gotta see what the Kardashians are up to and what those whores are doing!’  It was spot on, sadly I fear my portrayal isn’t doing it justice, but we can all see the intended humor, I’m sure.

It’s funny of course because it’s true.  We all sit there refreshing our facebook pages and wanting to see the latest gossip, in our own lives and then also of celebrity lives.  Celebrity gossip can be a nice escape, or so we tell ourselves, I am in agreance with Lisa Bloom, when she wrote that we should cut it out of our lives completely.  It’s filling our heads with unnecessary drama and it’s impacting how we interact with people.  We are not the Kardashians or the cast of Jersey Shore and thus the behavior portrayed there is not what we should be recreating in our lives.  Completely sane people watch these shows and then, slowly at first, the characteristics creep in.  They walk down the streets thinking that everyone is staring at them, they take on the ‘me me me’ complex, and then they start with the drama. 

We all desperately need to know what is going on with our own social circles and those of the celebrities we adore.  Even when we are right in front of the people we care most for and love, we choose cell phones and the egotistical pull they create.  In the world of our cell phone we are finally the star.  That is where the world truly revolves around us.  We capture all our best angles on our cameras, send texts to the guys and girls we like….and then also to the ones we don’t really like…just in case, we post every random thought to our facebook page as if people are just waiting to know, and then we can go further and become tweeters and…dare I say…bloggers.

But I belive that the intention and the energy behind these acts is causing the real problem as opposed to the acts themselves.

Some people give off a certain energy.  You get the sense around them that they are off in a better world on their phones.  They give off an energy of anxiousness and arrogance.  I encounter these people often.  These are the hardcore narcissists that are so involved in their own lives that they barely live.  They, along with the complacent ones who sit around waiting for life to happen, are my arch nemesis.  These are the two types of people I avoid.  Sometimes you can’t sense them until you are extremely close up, but when you do, it’s probably a good idea to stop the relationship before their energy starts to influence you. 

These are the people who drag us down.  They mock our efforts to improve our lives, will cease to show up if you are not doing all the work, and feed off all things negative.  They don’t want to see you happy and engaged in life because it’s a sore reminder that they are not.

I truly believe that people’s energy is an important factor in creating and sustaining any kind of relationship.  I’m told I have weird taste in men and I think that is because I don’t go based on looks, I’m going based on the energy or vibe I get from them, of course it can be difficult to then distinguish sexual attraction from the energy of your future soul mate, but the plan isn’t flawless yet.

Stop and think about what kind of energy you are creating when you ignore the people around you and when you engage in behavior that is hurtful towards others (purposefully or because of neglect).  We all have the power to control our energy, it’s a little thing that can make a big impact.  As you change your energy and engage in your life in a new way, it’s amazing how so many things around you can change.  Suddenly missing the last train home is not a huge conspiracy against you….and worldjust seems a lot more kinder.  Just a little bit of effort, goes a long way.